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I have a secret.

It’s a secret that might not big that big of a deal to some, but to me, it’s pretty huge. It’s consuming me and all I can think about. We’re not ready to disclose this secret to the public quite yet, but since it’s all that’s on my mind, it’s pretty hard not to give it away or accidentally let it slip in one of my posts. It’s making writing difficult and I’ve found myself avoiding this blog.

It has made me start thinking about secrets in our personal relationships. Marriage is supposed to be this open, committed bond where you share everything. You’re partners in crime and nothing is held back. So what happens when one of you has a secret?

When there’s something I don’t want to tell my spouse, I start limiting my conversations. I become quiet, distant and just avoid talking all together. It might not necessarily be a negative secret, but just the same, it can have an adverse impact on our relationship.

“The more secrets that you keep, the less opportunity you have for real intimacy” – Michelle Peterson

Although part of me thinks that I’m allowed to have some things that are cherished and sacred just to me, I can’t help but wonder how many secrets are too many? Small secrets seem fairly harmless and sometimes I feel that there are things better left unsaid. But these things remain in my heart and on my mind, should all things on my heart be voiced?

For each word left unsaid, we’re creating a wedge. A reason is being created not to trust each other.

“Love cannot build a home where lies and secrets sleep.” – unknown

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